Blk Coffy Posts

September 10, 2019


It’s the 3rd time my phone has rung in the same hour

My mother. Calling, screaming, forcing, demanding. 

“Marti, call me back I have some good news to tell you this time.”

I roll my eyes knowing there’s no need nor urgency for anything. 

But I betta call back. As grown and independent as I am.

I have my own good news to tend to.

I have my own needs to meet.

And yet, the phone keeps singing. Forget the breakfast you wanted to make. 

Don’t sit down, close your eyes to meditate. Stop rolling your mat out for yoga, you don’t need that.

What you need to do is call your mother back.

The mother that sacrificed her life for you.

The mother that carried everything on her back for you. 

The least you could do is call me back. “ I just got to say this one thing then I’ll be out ya hair.” 

That one thing turns into a hour and 15 mins of sang’n the blues, not one or two things of any good is said. 

Ring….Ring….Ring.. Ring…

Ring…Ring… Ring…Ring…

I let the phone ring. I’ll get it when I feel like talk’n. 

August 24, 2019

Every time Grandma started cooking, the kitchen would fill up with a redolence that stained clothes or left a fragrance in your hair.

Sweet potatoes, greens, corn bread and bake chicken clung to every corner while the heat bussed through seams of closed doors until the whole house was sweating profusely.  

Grandma would yell, “ open up them windows..let some fresh air in.”

Each window would screech like a new born baby 

then a rush of coolness would soften the sound 

I’d stand there for a few minutes before heading back to the kitchen

Soaking up the loud mouth neighbors, the hard vibrations of base in a speeding sports car, to my grandfather marching back and forth from the front of the house to the back

And I, too was a part of it all

 my little brown body watching from the window pane 

I was seeing the world as much as it was seeing me 

August 21, 2019

What I need friends fa? 

All they do is smile in ya face then sleep with ya man 

Them women down at the church ain’t no good 

If I went anywhere with them, you know on one of them church trips 

They’ll see me. See how my body look under these pretty church suits and church hats

Nah I can’t have that

I can hear them laugh‘n and whisper’n 

Tell’n folks Miss Eloise ain’t nothing but wrinkled leather 

All that shake in her hips, nose in the air ain’t about nothin

What I need friends fa? 

I got a man, he might be nothin’ but an old stubborn dog

But I got a man

July 19, 2019

Summer’s peak with nothing more than jus’ heat

The streets swell and sizzle 

black kids cook and frizzle 

Skin crisper than burnt bacon 

Aside of sunny side eggs 

Fried, scrambled, and shaken

It don’t bother them none

They keep runnin’, laugh’n 

til the sun closes in on the horizon 

Skin darker than burnt bacon

Sweet, maple and smoke  

permeating the night sky

They’ll be at it again tomorrow

Fried harder and darker and better  

July 14, 2019

Sneakers have made a solar return! Well, in my life at least. For the past month, I’ve been trying to re-define my wardrobe. I’ve been needing to find fun in getting dress again, and this time around adding a side of comfort, please!

To make a long story short, I’ve been inspired by a thrift fashion guru, Notorious Kia. She has re-awakened my innovative, versatile, funky sense of fashion. Not to mention, she re-introduce me to how exciting thrifting can be, while minimizing your consumption. For the longest time, I would never consider animal prints, dresses, leather or anything outside of my scope of style. It was as if I had chosen a style I would wear for the rest of my life, and giving no room for anything else. Now that I think about it, I learned early on that after your mid-twenties it wasn’t appropriate to wear sneakers or trendy styles. The women I watched play dress-up had boundaries to their wardrobe; keeping it either business casual, mom-like, sanctified or to simply put it, boring. Anything beyond that was called, “trying and can’t” ( moms voice)

Today, Tracee Ellis Ross, Solange, Erykah Badu and many others have been embracing formal wear with sneakers. To me, pairing a sneaker with various patterns, dresses, skirts, suits or color blocks is an urban funky-ness that sets your outfit apart from the norm. So, I said I’ll give it a try. Don’t get me wrong, a part of me questions whether this is just a phase or will it be here to stay? And honestly, I don’t know and don’t care. I’m learning the older I become I have to constantly keep pushing pass my own limitations even when it comes to the little things.

July 1, 2019

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June 17, 2019

I told mama stop feeding those weeds 

they ain’t goin’ no where 

I told mama them weeds jus crowd’n space 

takin up room where flowers can bloom. 

Pluck em, spit em out, cut em, get rid of em 

But mama keep waterin’ them weeds 

pray’n for somethin’ different. 

Mama say them weeds betta than nothin’ 

I told mama, well them weeds is all you gon get. 

December 16, 2018

Moved by actual love letters, Peter Bruun creates a drawing for each and every letter he is inspired by. Below, a self-love letter I written as a prose was chosen to be apart of the project.

November 29, 2018

She sat cadet corner like

between brick umber colored walls
warm, stubborn and content

No one can see her
The walls just let her be, here
cradled like a baby.

She needs this
feeling the heat of her own breath
The sounds of her own words

No touch could give her this
No existing thing could fill her
But there, against the nothingness
Love finds her

November 9, 2018

The words poured from above my head as I searched around Save-A-Lot for some pasta sauce. There were children galloping in and out the aisles, while a middle-aged woman pushed a cart behind them screaming curse words. Near the produce section, I could hear a high-pitched voice of another woman bickering with an older man about the prices on fruits and vegetables being too high. And around the corner in the cereal aisle, a younger woman with thick box-braids groaned and smacked her lips so loud it sounded like a hand clap. She stood slumped over holding her iPhone in both hands. I could read the aggravation in her snare nostrils and eye-rolling that she wasn’t happy with whomever was texting on the other side of that screen. My eyes began to toss through the shelves like a policemen frisking a black brotha in a Benz. Meanwhile, I hear Aretha Franklin’s heroic voice pierce louder as I reach the end aisle, “cause you make me feel, you make me feel like a natural woman”.

Her words landed below my chest sinking deep within my gut. For a moment, I began to feel a little melancholy. I was never a die heart fan but losing one of our strongest sista’s in the game was heart breaking. Then as quickly as I drifted into grief, I was interrupted by the young mother shouting, “didn’t I tell yo’ stupid ass to grab the fuck’n cart.” I turned my head the other direction to spare the little girl from embarrassment. I continued down another random aisle, and there beside a can of spaghettios was the pasta sauce. Finally, as I approached the one and only line at check-out, I could still hear the angelic words of Franklin’s. I began to look at all the women in the store, some of their faces hung low or twisted with a scowl. None of their spirits reflected the sweet words of feeling loved, not even mine.

I returned home to listen to Franklin’s song again. I couldn’t help to think if other women of color ever felt as loved as Franklin did. For myself, I never knew what being in love looked like on a woman. I wondered would it resemble Stella, when she got her groove back or would it sing the blues like Love Jones? Unfortunately, neither had been familiar to me. I thought about all the faces of the women in my family and each one cried a different song. Most of them painted on smiles to keep folks believing that their roses smelled as lovely as they appeared. While others-built walls to protect themselves from being hurt. I took a vow to never become neither. And yet, I’m still broken. There I was standing in a long line of women who in some way was disappointed by love. Whether it was early childhood, young adult, middle-aged; we all had welcome people inside our homes, who didn’t deserve to be.

I began to stir the pasta sauce in a slow rotating motion as the men from my past circled around my mind. I thought about each relationship, situationship, and booty-call thoroughly. I peeled back pages of tangled words that contradicted actions as well as unresolved endings that left me wanting more. I realized I was drawn to men that didn’t know how to love. And still, most of them knew what to say to keep my nose open and my pants around my ankles. I read into their phone calls, good morning texts, Netflix and chill pop-ups as if it solidified us being in a relationship. While on the contrary, I ignored the disappearing acts, unanswered texts messages which lasted for days, and emotional roller-coaster rides that led me to blaming myself for not being enough.

As my pasta grew cold, I sat starring off into space reflecting on my first experience with love as a child. I flipped through old scenarios of my mother and father relationship then my relationship with them individually. I remember my mother wanting to have a family, while my dad was hungry for the streets. The constant give and take soon overwhelmed my mother, she would pack up our things and leave like a thief in the night. Then my father would come back around sniffing like a hound at our doorstep, howling and scratching for us to open our door to let him inside. My mother’s desire to want a family convinced her every time to soften for him. Once he felt he had us where he wanted us, we would go through this cycle all over again.

My father, the first man I loved, hurt me. Even though, we had many adventures of visiting museums, cheering at baseball games, ordering deep dish pizza and watching scary movies on Friday nights, he was still missing in a delicate part of my life. He knew to work hard until his hands felt numb and his belly was full. However, he did not know how to love. There wasn’t any tenderness that cushioned his hugs nor did his words bring ease. Every day, he would come home wearing his shoulders slightly hunched, face frowned and his walk hard. His greetings were as stale as old bread, and I knew not to expect more or less from him in our daily passing’s. He was just existing with us like a half-dead house plant. This guard he had wedge between us pour down inside me like a never-ending rainstorm in April. From there, those emotions settled like fresh soil then sprouted into an underline resentment towards men. I had been looking for a love I had never received from my father in every man I had been with. I was spinning on a merry go’ round of the same man and I didn’t know how to stop the ride.

A cold breeze had snuck inside raising the hairs on my arm. I had been day dreaming for almost a hour, with a half- eaten bowl pasta waiting on me. I realized there will never be a man to make me feel like a natural woman. Although, the idea of it seemed fulfilling. I knew it took more than just having a man present in my life to feel whole. If there was any way this carnival ride was going to end, I would have to peel back my unhealed parts I had normalized as a child and rebuild myself for myself. I decided to take the pasta out of its misery and dumped it in the trash. And with it, followed the pain of my past. I realized my father did the best he could with what he had been given. I knew I would have to forgive him as well as all of the men that had taken his place. And that was going to take time..